What is the meaning of this

ˈbɔɪfrɛndnoun1.    a person's regular male companion with whom they have a romantic or sexual relationship.

This post isn’t really telling you to go and call the next dude your boyfriend, I’m literally just trying to re-introduce what the word actually means, seeing as it has a whole other description these days.

I love when a casual conversation sparks inspiration for a new post, my friend Yinka asked the simple question of ‘What is a boyfriend?’ Here's us thinking we had a solid answer, then we realised finding a mutual definition was harder than we thought.

One thing was evident the word has clearly been warped. We’re at a time where the title has come with so many other connotations that it's easy to see why there’s so much confusion surrounding this one word. We’ve all heard about the idea of situationships, the idea that as a generation we have forgotten how to date. So yeah back to the talk. The first thing that came to mind for me was a boyfriend is someone that you bond with, a person you share a part of you with and obviously someone who you are romantically involved with. So maybe I didn’t use the word romantic but you get the general idea. It’s like we all had individual words and terms that we associated with the idea of a boyfriend. When you get into it though, like proper into it, some of you will realise you actually have a boyfriend (with or without the title).

One word that stuck out to me from the definition was the word regular.  As in that guy that took you out for a date or two is not your boyfriend, and if you’re just sexually involved well doesn’t always qualify either. Even combined it doesn’t make them your boyfriend but essentially, according to the definition, it's having that one individual that remains the constant ‘one’ that essentially makes them 'man'; It’s actually quite simple, but would we classify the word as more of a term than a title?

These days’ guys aren’t too keen to accept the title of boyfriend, whereas girls will play the role of a girlfriend but wont be given the ‘title’ either and that’s where it all gets a bit complicated. It can be vice versa but that’s usually how it goes. If you think back to my previous post, assuming you are more or even less that what you are can be an issue. It’s too easy to go above and beyond for someone and give him or her more than they deserve in the bid to acquire a title or more. I mean no one wants to be in a situation where they dread having to introduce someone or be introduced. The awkwardness of being called a girlfriend/boyfriend, knowing that you aren’t. Like no pressure and all but it all gets a bit iffy when you start thinking why can’t I call them my boyfriend or girlfriend anyway.

And we go full circle, back to thinking again, what is a boyfriend? By definition it’s the guy you regularly see, spend time with, have a friendship with (as a foundation) and are romantically involved with. In simpler terms, it’s probably the guy you think about reading this.

Girls can be just as bad as guys on this one but there's only so much I can say for them. Agree or disagree the true definition doesn't change.