Tolerance

No one is perfect, and everyone has his or her flaws. So as individuals how do we gauge what we should tolerate? When does it pass tolerating and become us settling. When we know someone’s worth we understand how much we can tolerate from that person and vice versa. But can we really turn some red flags white.

It seems that the mentality of being able to change a person is slowly fading. We understand that instead of changing someone we adapt and tolerate. With that being said does he or she have habits that can't be over looked? I’m the type of person that thinks, if it bothers me in the beginning it can only get worse if not addressed. Now addressing it doesn’t mean you’re trying to change them, you’re allowing them to be aware of the things that they do, that you don’t particularly like or understand. Obviously this has to be done correctly, you can’t go in all guns blazing, they may feel ‘attacked’ or nagged even and to be fair it may just be something they didn’t realise they did.
Everyone has their levels of tolerance, so chances are the person or people before you could tolerate it. That doesn’t necessarily mean you should too, but it should get you thinking how much does it really affect you.

That’s all more suited to personal habits when it comes to habitual actions then it slyly becomes a different ball game. Everyone has their breaking point, so when is enough, enough.

It is so easy to be influenced by hearsay, the same people that say you shouldn’t put up with the things your partner or even your friends do, are probably the same people that are likely to go against their own advice when put into that position. Essentially if they have been in that situation before then it makes their advice that much more fitting but not always. Not to say you have to have gone through something to give advice, but if it is the case take it with a pinch of salt and add your own common sense to it. At the end of the day any action you take will be seen as yours, with no credits to whoever influenced you.

You and only you know when you’ve reached your limit and when you’ve had enough, no one should dictate what that limit is. Having an outside view should help keep you grounded, as we all know emotions can jade our judgment, but use your intuition to know when you’ve tolerated enough. Following actions rather than words can help you see this clearer. Words are like future actions, whereas actions good or bad can cement what happens in the present.

Everyone has a worth, but to different people that will vary, what are you tolerating and why? Weigh up your options and if your pros outweigh your cons or vice versa then question, is it worth it to you? Do they know your worth? be clear and true with yourself and see if you're being too lenient or overtly aware of certain traits.

If you feel like you've addressed anything one too many times think about why nothing has changed and adjust your tolerance levels if needed.