Final destination

Probably some of the most confusing terms to try and use in any budding relationship are exclusivity and official.

So you’re exclusive but not dating. What does that mean? I wonder how you can be exclusive (as in 100% not seeing any other people or having anyone else in that sense) yet you’re technically not together...someone enlighten me.

So yes, exclusive but not official. Like the previous post touched on, you definitely having to give everything time and be patient. But a year or two into it and you’re not official; it becomes questionable where everything is going.

For someone like me I definitely think towards the future a lot, but at the same time I can go with the flow. So there’s never any rush to be official but exclusivity is a must (no sharing), but there does come a point where you feel as though without some definition, things are plateauing. I never thought a guy had to clearly say ‘would you be my girlfriend’ but to be fair a friend of mine explained it to me and it really did make sense. Sometimes relying on “knowing what it is” isn’t always a good thing, that’s where misunderstandings occur, and whilst you think you’re on the same page as your partner, you find out that you’re in two different minds about what you are and what the relationship is.
Sad to say, you should never assume your position. If it isn’t spelt out clearly and verbalised don’t think it's something just because you want it to be. Worst case scenario you get them saying ‘but I never said that’ leaving you standing there realising 1) they never did. 2) You’ve made an assumption 3) they are probably making excuses but most of all 4) you feel silly for thinking otherwise.

And again, it’s always easy to say you wouldn’t be in that position, you cooked, cared, loved and tolerated him, you KNOW you've done it all to perfection and believe you're in the right to think so, but that’s where you underestimate the power of misunderstandings, miscommunication and excuses.

Never make assumptions.

It's inevitable, but in most aspects of life can be detrimental. You assume it’s this because of that, and that he meant this because he said that, we do it with the media all the time. If ever in doubt have that dude spell it out. Even a smidgen of confusion leaves the space for you to add your own hope and expectations into a simple sentence or situation. We all selectively hear and see what we want, so sometimes don’t read between the lines, and ask for clarity. If you need to have your relationship defined then do so. If you don’t know what you are together or at least what you are aiming to be, you’re simply wandering and taking chances that most people don’t have the time for.  
A train that is fit for travel doesn’t just wait at the station, it moves, goes on a journey and no matter how slow or halted the journey is, reaches it final destination. If your train breaks down mid-way, don’t hold on to it, it's okay to go a different route. Waste no time dwelling on how the journey would have been, everything and everyone in life happens for a reason.

Time is precious but waits for no one. Patience does go a long way, but so does common sense. If the individual doesn’t benefit you in any way and you are there in a stationary phase...just waiting at that station…

Well you know what to do.