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It’s such a clichéd ideology to live life with no regrets, but ultimately the past is the past and it has to stay as just that.

Whether it became something that you would call a mistake, essentially at one point you saw it as the right thing to do at the time. Just like many things in life, I guess this is a pretty generic way of looking at things and there will always be some situations that don’t fall under this way of thinking. But it can help you to deal with certain things. What was your motivation at the time? Why did it happen? (Not always something that is clear) and at the end of that day why do you feel the need to regret it?

Most times when we have a vision of something, an expectation, it’s easy to have regrets if we don’t end up with the outcome we desired. That in itself can restrict how we live life, the ‘fear ‘of the unknown, but where and how do we grow as individuals if we don’t accept our choices or give ourselves the opportunity to make potential mistakes?

Now relating it to relationships this can mean different things.

Say what you want: As easy as it sounds it seems that most times people just don’t say what they want or need to say anymore because of the consequences. Obviously if you can’t say anything nice then you know… but I’m saying those things that leave you thinking ‘what if’ when left unsaid. We’re at a time where it’s a case of if he/she doesn’t say it first I won’t say it, or better yet overthinking what will be said after you say it. I’m a very forward thinking person sometimes it's my flaw and I can do it in extremes, but a perfect example is, I love you. Now tradition is the guy should say it first right? My thought there is, are you guaranteed the chance to say it again. Say it if you mean it, regardless of the other party, there’s strength and freedom in being able to say what you what and what you mean. This is probably a good or bad example for some but you can get the general idea of saying what you want without regretting it. Chances are that’s how you felt at the time (and if he/she doesn’t say it back? That’s a whole other post)

Having no regrets is definitely easier said than done, and it is definitely something that you have to work on. Everything happens for a reason and that’s not always comforting when you’re not on the other side of your situation. In the bigger picture, everything we have done and said makes us who we are and got us to where we are in the present. If you are not where you want to be don’t have regrets, as said the past is the past. Change what you can today and take it that you only know the present the future isn’t confirmed and the past is adjourned.

Too many of us are living in the future, not giving 100% because of what we think we know. Occasionally it is us holding back that creates a lot of the situations we face. In everything you do, do it 100. We can’t live being ruled by what hasn’t happened. Sometimes the fault isn’t with us but in how our '100%' mentality is received, and hey that’s not your problem.