So I started writing this post and thought let me add some
visuals you know a bit of something to look at. On Google started typing and
please look at what came right up.
I knew it was something that was said a lot especially with
Instagram jumping on the bandwagon too but oh wow I actually laughed at how
ironic is was.
Slide into my DM’s and I'm like, “be gone”. Obviously
we hear those cases where a guy or usually a girl is too quick to go off on one and
assume that they are being approached in the DM’s, when really it was something
a little more genuine, either way the DMs are hostile, volatile and kind of ‘risky’ to enter.
But not everyone is trying to get at you that way.
Don’t get me wrong if some random person @’s me it’s like
oh, then if they enter the DMs it’s like oh okay here we go. That initial
mentality probably won’t go away but I try not to act on it too fast.
People respond to the information that you put out in your
tweets, your bio and sometimes through what you retweet and favourite. Not
saying you can know a person just through those things but it does give someone a rough
idea. From the information I've placed in my bio and considering what I tweet
in general, I should really expect ‘random’ (like people who aren't following
me) people to @ me or even follow, and then DM me.
Getting to the point, don’t be easy when dealing with DM’s but
be civil. If someone hasn't given you a reason to hit back then try not to be
so hostile. Your DM’s aren't that personal, this person isn't on your line nor
are they banging your front door down. If your approached in the wrong way Ray
Charles the message, people stress but it really isn't by force to answer
anything or anyone. Someone who is serious (as in has a genuine question or
something) probably won’t beat around the bush and will ask you there and then.
Some people will mmm and ahh about this but I've made some genuine friends,
associates and links just by dealing with the DM’s in the right way but each to
their own.
If it’s something along the lines of, I want to get to know
you, or your avi is cute or even anything remotely ‘slide into your DM’ish’
then by all means do you. Remember though, social media has different uses and
there may be some genuine individuals who may want to know more about your
course, work that you do, skills you said you have etc. there could be an opportunity that comes from the interaction, so I would say don't be to quick to assume the worst. If you don’t feel
comfortable just because it is your DM’s then get them to email you instead, (could be a
deterrent), although I don’t see the difference. It may get rid of that whole
story of ‘yeah we met in my DM’s’
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